Here’s a quote from Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour:
Discipline should always come with the opportunity to make things right again.
As the title suggests, Untangled is all about supporting girls as they develop into adults. A girl who is contending with adult authority, one of Damour’s seven transitions, might disregard an adult’s instructions and do something inappropriate. A correct response will, of course, involve some sort of discipline, but the discipline needs to be more than simply punishment. It needs to include a learning opportunity, a chance to correct a mistake and grow.
I really enjoyed Untangled. Damour’s perspective as a clinical psychologist who works with teenage girls helped me think about my students in a different way. I look forward to applying new ideas and insights in my future work with my students.